Let us pretend that there is a separate “Kjell Gustafsson” and give the idea of a “Kjell” with a separate and very special story. A story to relate to. What would it give us? Would we come closer? Would that story tell if “Kjell” could know and share something of value?
If we were 20 people in the room there would probably be 20 different “Kjell” (stories about Kjell) in the room. Yet if one would look very close one cannot find anything that is separate.
This is what is
And this can be changed
There will probably be some pointer to what you are in your encounter with “him”. He may be interested in, if your own story about yourself, or your stories about others, have brought you closer. So close that closeness disappeared into THIS.